Articles
The method, in the open.
Each piece takes one published study, says plainly what the researchers did and found, and then says where that study runs out. The limits are on the page with the finding, not below it.
Find your fight
Sorted by what it is about.
The same eight subjects the coach asks about in a first session. Start with yours, or read the last group, which is about the shape of an argument rather than its subject.
Time together
The slow kind of trouble, where nothing is wrong and nothing is happening.
Any fight, whatever it is about
Research about the shape of an argument rather than its subject. These apply to all of the above.
- Conflict patternsDraft3 min read
The Four Patterns That Predict a Fight Going Nowhere
Four moves show up again and again in conversations that end badly. Learning to spot them mid-sentence is most of the work.
Read it → - Repair movesDraft3 min read
Repair Moves: What Couples Do the Morning After
Every couple fights. The ones who last are not the ones who fight less — they are the ones who know how to come back.
Read it →
Also worth reading here: Turning Toward: The Small Moves That Decide a Relationship.
Every study named in these pieces was checked against the publisher record before it went in. The wider evidence base, including the paper that argues against our whole premise, is laid out on the science page.
Why this is public
“Read all of it first if you want. It won’t spoil anything we do.”
— Elena, your coach
Everything the method draws on is written up here, including where it stops.
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